Christmas Untangled
Get to know your inner committee and make room for yourself this Christmas
You've agreed to host. Said you'll bring something. Added three more things to the shopping list. And somehow become responsible for everyone having a lovely time.
Your Pleaser doesn't want to sidappoint anyone.
Your Pusher reckons you can fit it all in.
Your Perfectionist has opinions about the wrapping.
Meanwhile, what you actually want has slipped to the bottom of the list.
Sound familiar?
Join me for a practical, interactive afternoon exploring the parts of you that can turn Christmas into a job you never knowingly applied for.
Through guided exercises, reflections and discussion, we'll explore how to notice who is taking charge, pause before automatically agreeing, and make choices that leave room for you too.
You'll also try simple ways to bring yourself back to the present when you head is racing ahead, and practise useful phrases for those awkward conversations about plans, expectations and who's doing what.
Thursday 3rd December 2026
1.30–4 pm
Admiral Rodney Pub, Calverton, Nottinghamshire
£45 per person
Includes your workbook, tea, coffee and cake.
Free Parking.
Maximum 12 participants
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Who’s organising your Christmas?
You might think it’s you. But your inner committee may already have agreed to host, bought enough food for a small village and decided that asking for help would be making a fuss.
These parts of you often mean well. They want people to feel welcome, things to go smoothly and nobody to be disappointed. But their version of a successful Christmas can leave you exhausted before it’s even started.
During the afternoon, we’ll explore:
Meet your festive committee
Recognise when your Pleaser, Pusher, Perfectionist or Critic takes charge, what they’re trying to do for you and when their help starts costing you.
Work out what matters to you
Make space for what you actually want from Christmas, alongside the traditions, expectations and responsibilities you’ve collected along the way.
Come back to the moment
Try simple grounding and mindfulness activities you can use when your thoughts are racing through everything still to do.
Find words for awkward conversations
Practise ways to ask for help, share responsibilities, say no or suggest something different, without needing a ten-minute explanation.
Make a plan with room for you
Choose what you want to keep, share, simplify or leave out, with a few practical next steps to take home.
You won’t need to silence your inner committee. The aim is to understand who’s speaking, so you can give yourself a say too.
You don’t have to share your family Christmas saga
You’re welcome to talk about what you notice, but you won’t be expected to tell the group anything personal.
I’ll guide you through the activities, with time to reflect, jot things down in your workbook and try out some practical tools. For the conversation exercises, you can use an everyday example. You don’t have to rehearse the trickiest conversation of your life in front of strangers.
There’ll be a maximum of 12 participants, with room for questions, discussion and a little laughter. Tea, coffee and cake will help proceedings along too.
We’ll ask everyone to respect each other’s experiences and keep personal stories shared in the room private.
You don’t need any previous experience of coaching, mindfulness or your inner committee. Come as you are, with whatever Christmas is looking like for you.
Meet Michelle
Hi, I’m Michelle, an empowerment coach, hypnotherapist, Voice Dialogue facilitator and professional detangler of life’s messy stuff.
I know what it’s like to have a Pusher who doesn’t recognise clocking-off time, a Pleaser who volunteers before you’ve thought it through and a Critic who still thinks you could have done more.
Christmas gives them plenty to work with!
After more than 30 years working in the NHS and experiencing burnout myself, understanding these parts of me became an important part of changing how I lived.
Now I help others understand the patterns behind their thoughts, decisions and behaviour, and explore what they want to do differently.
I bring warmth, honest questions, practical tools and a sense of humour. I’ll guide you through the afternoon without expecting you to have all the answers or Christmas under control.
Your afternoon of Christmas untangling
Workshop: Christmas Untangled
Get to know your inner committee and make room for yourself this Christmas
Date: Thursday 3rd December 2026
Time: 1.30–4 pm
Venue: Admiral Rodney Pub, Main Street, Calverton, Nottinghamshire, NG14 6FB
Parking: Free parking at the venue.
Group size: Maximum 12 participants
Price: £45 per person
Included: Your guided workshop, practical exercises, a workbook to use and take home, plus tea, coffee, cake.
Bring yourself, a pen and your curiosity. There is nothing to study or prepare beforehand.
A few things you might be wondering
Do I need to know anything about the inner committee?
No. I’ll introduce the ideas and guide you through the activities. You might already recognise your inner critic or people pleaser, but you don’t need to know who’s who before you arrive.
Will I have to share personal things with the group?
You choose how much you share. There’ll be opportunities for discussion, alongside time for private reflection in your workbook. You can practice the conversation tools using an everyday example.
Is this useful if I enjoy Christmas?
Absolutely. You can love Christmas and still find yourself doing too much, agreeing too quickly or feeling responsible for everyone else enjoying it. We’ll explore how to make room for what matters to you too.
Will this help with awkward conversations?
We’ll practise useful phrases for asking for help, sharing responsibilities, saying no and suggesting something different. You can’t control how someone else responds, but you can get clearer about what you want to say.
What will I take away?
A better understanding of your festive inner committee, simple ways to come back to the present, ideas for handling conversations and a few practical choices to help Christmas work better for you. Your workbook is yours to keep and refer back to.
What’s included in the £45?
The 2½-hour guided workshop, your workbook, tea, coffee and cake. There's also free parking at the venue.
What should I bring?
Yourself, a pen and your curiosity. There’s nothing to read or prepare beforehand.
Make room for yourself this Christmas
Before your Pleaser volunteers you for something else, give yourself and afternoon to pause.
Come and get to know the committee behind the organising, overthinking and automatic yes. Try some practical tools, find words for the awkward conversations and work out what you want Christmas to look like too.
Thursday 3rd December 2026
1.30–4 pm
Admiral Rodney Pub, Calverton, Nottinghamshire
£45 per person
Includes your workbook, tea, coffee and cake.
Free parking at the venue.
Maximum 12 participants